How do I know he is a play boy?
A lady’s worst nightmare is to end up falling in love with a player (man that has no noble intentions towards her.) These men are insensitive and unrepentant about the emotional damages they cause. Single women need to be careful and smart. In other words they should not allow their desire to find a spouse mislead them into the hands of such hostile men. This article is going to highlight some characteristics of a play boy.
Smooth Talker: Most play boys usually have charming personalities so they can do wonders with their speech. In fact they are very poetic and have got speedy answers to ladies responses whilst being full of compliments and quite patronizing. Some ladies find them extremely romantic but the truth is that it is all a façade. These men do know how to sweep a lady off her feet just to use and dump her. Play boys like to go the extra mile and they are also good at testing a lady to know how well she is buying their lies and deceit. They always have a too good to be true attitude at first, making the lady believe that she has found her knight and shining armor, but the reality is that things might start getting clearer sooner. Play boys do not waste any time, they are opportunists through and through. If they have finished taking advantage of one lady then they move forward to the next vulnerable lady, not mindful of the pain they have caused.
Very Sexual: Any vigilant lady should be able to detect a man that desires her out of lust. Players are always after sex or cash. Even on a first meeting they might start making some sexual attempts, like trying to give a kiss or wanting to hold the lady inappropriately. If not stopped they can go all the way. They are also good at using words with sexual connotations as compliments, like “baby you are hot” “check out those sweet curves” etc. When they get into a relationship with a lady they start demanding sex. If the lady refuses and they have used all the tricks in the book, then the real self comes out, they can get very nasty and verbally abusive. That is why The Bible warns that we should stay pure of premarital sex; because that is the only way one can give a player a taste of his own medicine.
the word commitment: Play boys don’t get into
relationships for any reasonable meaning – in as much as they are very good at
making empty promises. They would only hype the lady until she gives in and as a
result will tell her what she wants to hear. If she is looking for a committed relationship
they might give the impression that the feelings are mutual. But when the guy
has succeeded in taking advantage of the lady. In the pretext of a
relationship, here comes his true colors, the word commitment makes every play
boy MAD and their response always confuses the ladies, especially those that
are very comfortable and still don’t want to settle down. If commitment becomes
an issue in the relationship then the play boy will either take off or
deliberately frustrate the woman to call it quit. These men are commitment adverse.
No free asses: When people believe themselves to be in a relationship they would want to share, but for play boys they will not grant the woman any access to their hearts or life. The relationship will be orchestrated so that lady is forced to comply, mainly to sooth the guy. Usually they make some rules because most of them are seeing two or more ladies at a time, so giving too much access to any particular one is dangerous. Such men don’t like things like surprise visits as it gets them very upset. An observant lady should be able to perceive that there is more than meet the eye with such crooked lifestyle.
a secretive relationship: Wants a secretive
boys always like a convenient relationship that will favor their own interest.
A lady dating a play boy will always suffer stagnancy in the relationship,
because the man has got no intentions of making the union flourish. Any activity
that will expose the relationship is highly prohibited. Play boys only thrive
in secretive dating since that enables them to keep more than one girl at a
time. These men, no matter how long they have been dating a girl will never
introduce her to any family or friends. They might get very angry with things
like “I told my sister about you” or “I added a picture of us on Facebook…” These
men are simply users.
Unpredictable: There is nothing as challenging as being in a chaotic relationship. Ladies in relationships with play boys always have many questions and no answers. These men are so unpredictable and display all kinds of hot and cold attitudes. One minute they can promise the lady undying love and in another they are upset because the lady mentioned marriage. They might tell the lady I am going to spend the whole of today with you, but might change their mind after a call from an unidentified caller and with little or no explanation will just leave. He might ask a lady out for dinner tonight and will never come nor will answer his phone. Others may be wondering why ladies stick with this sort of man after all the mistreatment. It is important to remember that play-boys have their way with women and when it comes to women they have abilities to capture their imaginations.
Has his eyes on her cash: What defines a playboy is his extreme level of selfishness and self-centeredness. Some are in it just to take sexual advantage of the girl, whist others are in for the sex and cash. These types of play boys are usually the worst kind as they target a lady that is well off financially and woo her into a relationship. If the lady is not careful she can be taken advantage of financially by believing stories that can make her dish out cash to them. Some ladies end up spending for them and funnily enough these men can collect cash in a systematic way - as if they are doing her a favor. They are prepared to be spongers for as long as they can and often use the money to woo other women. Personally, I think this is adding insult to injury.
Unaccountable: The puzzling fact remains that play-boys can keep a relationship with a loyal girl even when they are far from been loyal themselves. These men do not want to account for anything, they just want to have their cake and eat it. Players enjoy keeping women in the dark and hate it when they are questioned. They will never tolerate attitude from a lady that wants to know their every move. These men are manipulative and shallow.
Play boys don’t get into relationships for any reasonable meaning: in as much as they are very good at making empty promises. They would only hype the lady until she gives in and as a result will tell her what she wants to hear. If she is looking for a committed relationship they might give the impression that the feelings are mutual. But when the guy has succeeded in taking advantage of the lady. In the pretext of a relationship, here comes his true colors, the word commitment makes every play boy angry and their response always confuses the ladies, especially those that are very comfortable and still don’t want to settle down. If commitment becomes an issue in the relationship then the play boy will either take off or deliberately frustrate the woman to call it quits. These men are commitment adverse.
Cripples her emotionally: Nobody toys with a woman’s emotions like a play-boy and this is why starting a relationship with them in the first place is of no use. They think they are very clever and this enables them to take advantage of ladies. Players generally have creative and misguided ways with ladies and subsequently women usually end up having an unhealthy emotional bond with them. This further empowers these men to misbehave and even justify their excesses. At first it starts with a man that would woo a lady in the most romantic and magical way, but as the relationship proceeds the lady is left tangled up in a relationship with a man that as no noble intentions towards her. Even when she wants to opt out the man will drag her back in with his lies, until she gets confused emotional and vulnerability kicks in. Such cases are more often than not very sad and play-boys have left many good girls scared emotionally.
Ladies, God has made us to be very precious, let us not allow any man come into our lives and mess up the plan of God concerning us. Play boys can be found anywhere, even in the church, so be on the alert.
You are precious and honored
in my sight.
By Queen Ekuerhare